As an introvert, I’ve learned to set hard time boundaries at networking events because there’s a law of diminishing return. I’ll stay for a set amount of time, then leave before my energy is completely drained.
I have a problem of eating that my body doesn’t tell me when I am full, and likewise at events there’s no internal alarm to tell me I should go. I am often one of the last people standing around and I hate it. It feels uncool, but more critically it socially signals that maybe I don’t have other/better things to do that night. I am not concerned about the perception. I am concerned about the constant realization that I’ve done it again. There are so many events I might not attend because of the failure of my internal social alarm.
First-time reader, long-time 20-minute rule follower. Show up, stay long enough for the awkwardness to pass, find one real human, leave with your nervous system intact.
As an introvert, I’ve learned to set hard time boundaries at networking events because there’s a law of diminishing return. I’ll stay for a set amount of time, then leave before my energy is completely drained.
That makes sense. I’m a little different in that I’m mindful of my energy in the moment so I can be most present for myself and others.
I have a problem of eating that my body doesn’t tell me when I am full, and likewise at events there’s no internal alarm to tell me I should go. I am often one of the last people standing around and I hate it. It feels uncool, but more critically it socially signals that maybe I don’t have other/better things to do that night. I am not concerned about the perception. I am concerned about the constant realization that I’ve done it again. There are so many events I might not attend because of the failure of my internal social alarm.
For what it’s worth, I’m seemingly insatiable in the same ways.
First-time reader, long-time 20-minute rule follower. Show up, stay long enough for the awkwardness to pass, find one real human, leave with your nervous system intact.
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The ick hangover yes 🙌 I think it happens when we feel as you say it professionally performative, vs our true selves.
Hangover - what a good word. Also, if only the power of mimicry were as high for authenticity as it is for performance 🫠